Relationship Help Quick Tip Can you take a moment and feel your spouse’s/partner’s presence right now? This is what I asked a group of men and women during a couples communication workshop. In response to the question, several people reached over and actually touched their partner and said, “Now I can.” But that’s not what [...]

By their very nature, intimate relationships invite couples to be vulnerable with one another—allowing us to express and share our deepest selves. For this to occur, you need to feel safe enough to shed the roles, personae and protective armor typically inhabited in your daily lives. It is indeed a gift to feel safe enough [...]

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl Whether you’re aware of it or not, you have a great deal of power–and so does your partner. In love, in your marriage or [...]

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi We all have barriers—psychological defenses that shield us from the emotional pain and discomfort that is experienced as too overwhelming. In these instances, our barriers work to keep certain [...]

In a previous relationship help article, we focused on the idea of reminiscing as a pathway to nurturing your relationship—in particular, making a conscious effort to remember and share the positive memories that you and your spouse/partner have created and stored up over the history of your relationship. Bringing the positive-past into the present moment [...]