My Top Premarital Counseling Question

Questions have the power to open us up intellectually, emotionally, spirituality, and sexually. Whenever questions make us ponder something new or force us to examine ourselves at a deeper level, they lead us into unfamiliar terrain—a terrain that can include possibilities not previously imagined. In short, questions offer couples (in every stage of their relationship Read More

Premarital Questions: More Questions to Help You Prepare for Marriage

(The following article is one in a series of articles on marriage preparation and premarital counseling questions). Preparing for marriage is serious business—and I’m not just talking about the logistics of the wedding and honeymoon. Couples today know the hard facts about marriage: many have divorced parents or at least know another couple who couldn’t Read More

Remarriage Success: Strengthening Your Second Marriage

Q: I’m getting remarried, and although I’m happy about it, I’m also concerned—I recently read that the divorce rate for second marriages is higher than for first marriages. Why would this be the case, and should I be concerned?  ~Evelyn, Albuquerque NM A: Thanks for your question, Evelyn and congratulations on your upcoming marriage! It Read More

Marriage Help: 3 Mistakes Newlyweds Make

This is a very special and exciting time for your relationship. And the fact that you’re reading this article shows that you’re a planner and eager to protect and care for the future of your marriage. Too often, couples only seek marriage/relationship help when serious problems have arisen—sometimes waiting until one person is totally checked Read More

Premarital Counseling Questions: 5 Questions to Ask Before You Marry

“Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another’s personhood.” ~Karen Casey In a previous article, Premarital Counseling: Questions to Ask Before You Get Married, we examined five essential questions to help couples prepare for the gifts and challenges that come with married life. Today we are Read More

Premarital Counseling: Take the Steps to Protect Your Marriage

The sad fact is that many of the couples who finally seek marriage and couples counseling when trouble arises have done little to prepare themselves for the challenges and ins-and-outs of marriage or a committed relationship.  And this is probably true for couples who never go into counseling as well. Why do most couples put Read More

Premarital Questions: 5 Questions to Help You Prepare for Marriage

In my previous article, “Premarital Counseling: Questions to Ask Before You Marry,” I briefly examined five different questions couples should reflect on before or soon after marrying. These questions centered around your motivation to marry, the importance of exploring your core values and how they might differ from your future spouse’s, the need to prepare Read More

Marriage Help: Why Your Friends Matter to Your Marriage

Whenever a couple seeks marriage/relationship help, I take an inventory of their relationships (the people they choose to spend time with—like friends—and the people they might be stuck with for periods of time—like coworkers). Why the emphasis on outside relationships when a couple’s marriage is in trouble? Relationship Interconnectedness   You exist within a web Read More

Premarital Questions to Help You Get Ready for Marriage

Are you really ready for marriage? So you’re thinking about getting married! Congratulations on finding that special someone, falling madly in love, and deciding to live that love through commitment. And throughout the months or years that led up to the exciting time that is now, you’ve probably asked yourself hundreds of questions along the way, Read More

Relationship Help: Keeping Curiosity Alive in Your Relationship

How well do you know your spouse/partner? Are you a curious spouse/partner? All marriages and relationships evolve, and this evolution involves getting to know your spouse/partner at a deeper level. Early in the relationship, this process moves along naturally and at its own pace—but as relationships mature, this process levels off, and the mutual curiosity Read More

Marriage Preparation: 7 Things You Should Know About Your Partner Before (And After) Getting Married

All relationships (and marriages) evolve and this evolution involves getting to know each other at a deeper level. Most of the time, this process moves along at it’s own pace. But there are steps couples can take to help the “getting to know each other” process along. This is especially important early on in your Read More