Emotional intimacy can only survive in the fertile soil of trust, respect and compassion.
Let’s briefly look at each of these and see why they’re vital to a healthy marriage or relationship. The goal is to make trust, respect and compassion the foundation of your interactions and communication with your spouse/partner.
Relationship Advice: The trust, respect and compassion triad
~Trust is a two-way street that sends the message that you and your partner will never intentionally embarrass or shame each other and that you will validate and honor each other’s essence. Without mutual trust, emotional sharing (expressing your deepest hopes, dreams and fears) grinds to a screeching halt.
~Respect sends the message that you value one another, and this comes through in how you speak and react to your spouse/partner. It’s simple: speaking respectfully shows you respect each other. A lack of respect erodes the foundation of trust that is essential to intimacy.
~Compassion infuses your relationship with tenderness and loving-kindness. Compassion creates a safe atmosphere that allows us to be vulnerable with one another, thereby feeding emotional intimacy and strengthening the bond that makes your relationship unique and special.
The trust, respect and compassion triad is something couples can easily lose sight of, especially during times of stress. The goal is to be mindful of when your relationship is veering off course and return to these three relationship essentials when they are lacking.
As a client once told me, “We are all looking for a soft place to land and our marriage should be this place.”
Trust, respect and compassion will give you and your spouse/partner that soft place to land.
Until next time,
Dr. Rich Nicastro
Featured image “Catching trust word” by Stuart Miles; Freedigitalphotos.net