Relationship Help: Fall in Love with Your Partner More Than Once

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. ~Mignon McLaughlin

Love is not a linear phenomenon–your feelings of love will ebb and flow.


Couples who have been together for many years often describe falling in love with each other more than once (and in different ways) over the course of their marriage or relationship. There are naturally occurring relationship lulls intermixed with periods of greater connection and intensity.

Feelings change, love intensifies and wanes–over the lifetime of a marriage couples fall in and out of love with each other again and again.

How can you use this information?

Self-Reflection Action Step:

Think of your relationship as a journey–a journey that will involve highs and lows, success and disappointment, discovery and rediscovery.  Along this journey, successful couples maintain their commitment by holding onto the reasons they fell in love in the first place—and they also find new reasons to deepen their existing love.

Discovering new reasons to fall in love with the same person more than once is the challenge and gift of long-term marriages/relationships.

Until next time,

Dr. Rich Nicastro

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