Relationship Help: Lessons Learned from Successful Couples

Allow yourself to fall in love with your spouse all over again

Couples in successful, long-term marriages/relationships report the following:

Love is not a linear phenomenon–your feelings of love will ebb and flow.

These couples describe falling in love with each other more than once (and in different ways) over the course of their marriage/relationship. There are naturally occurring relationship lulls intermixed with periods of greater connection (emotional and physical intimacy) and intensity.

Feelings change, love intensifies and wanes–over the lifetime of a marriage couples fall in and out of love with each other again and again.

A Relationship Journey

Think of your relationship as a journey–a journey that will involve highs and lows, success and disappointment, discovery and rediscovery.  Along this journey,  successful couples hold onto the reasons they fell in love in the first place and they find new reasons to deepen their existing love.

Discovering new reasons to fall in love with the same person more than once is the challenge and gift of long-term relationships.

All best,

Dr. Rich Nicastro

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