“Whatever you decide, don’t let it be because you don’t think you have a choice.” ~Hannah Harrington
Today (and every day) you will come face-to-face with numerous decisions – decisions that will significantly impact how you react to your spouse/partner:
- Do I reach for his/her hand or share a hug (even if I’m not in the mood for physical affection)?
- Will I pick my words carefully, or will I let defensiveness or hurt feelings (my own or my partner’s) negatively impact what I say?
- Will I try to act lovingly and kindly even if my partner is in a bad mood or seems set on picking a fight with me?
- How will I say goodbye and later greet my spouse/partner?
- Will I choose to focus on what I’m grateful for and appreciate in my relationship/marriage (no matter how small this might be), or will I feed the fires of criticism?
- Will I remain silent when my partner needs words of comfort, or will I freely offer encouragement and support…even if I’ve said these same words a million times before?
The daily decisions you make (whether you are fully conscious of these choices or not) can either strengthen your marriage/relationship, maintain the status quo of things, or undermine and weaken your relationship.
In short, you have a great deal of influence over your relationship and with your partner. When we forget this fact, we become passive, helpless victims to each other’s whims rather than potential agents of change for a stronger relationship.
How will you choose?