The Power and Danger of Relationship Complacency

Relationship Help Quick Tip

Relationship ComplacencyI’d like to call your attention to a potential marriage and relationship problem that cuts across all cultures, races, geographic locations, age and socioeconomic groups.  And the ironic reality is that this problem is easily avoidable.

Too many loving couples and healthy marriages/relationships are falling victim to:  Complacency 

The Dangers of Relationship Complacency defines complacency as: a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger…self-satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation, condition, etc.

If we apply this definition to marriage and committed relationships, it’s easy to picture two very busy, well-intentioned people hurrying through their lives, on automatic pilot, somewhat oblivious to the reality that they’re failing to give their relationship the attention and care it so desperately needs.

The Antidote to Relationship Complacency

First, it’s important to note that there are no magic solutions or “secrets” to protecting your marriage/relationship from complacency. We have to be careful not to become complacent about complacency by seeking an easy way out of this dilemma.

Without ongoing effort, couples will remain stuck in the quicksand of complacency. 

The antidote for this condition is mindfulness: Making yourself aware of all the ways in which complacency is impacting your marriage/relationship. You and your partner cannot overcome complacency without first identifying the different ways it has crept into your lives.

It is only after your awareness has been raised that you’ll both be able to take meaningful action to protect your union from the ill effects of relationship complacency.

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All best,

Dr. Rich Nicastro

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