Why Do Couples Go To Couples Counseling?

SYR Podcast # 2 Session Notes

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Why do couples make the decision to go into couples counseling?

This is the question we address today in the Strengthen Your Relationship podcast.

Many couples never enter the office of a marriage therapist. Their relationship may work well so there is simply no reason to seek professional help; or they may be able to come together and fix any trouble spots that emerge. But with the divorce rate hovering around the fifty percent mark (in the United States), it is clear that many couples are not resolving the relationship problems that emerge. And while marital or relationship struggles vary from couple to couple, there are commonalities to the relationship problems that befall many of us.

Understanding these relationship or marital problem areas can help raise awareness about what to look for in your own relationship.

In today’s Strengthen Your Relationship podcast you’ll discover:

  • How couples get stuck and how to resolve relationship ruts;
  • The two types of “stuckness” that occurs;
  • How unresolved emotional wounding and patterns of negativity undermine emotional connection;
  • The importance of liking each other (and acting in ways to make yourself more likeable);
  • The ways in which significant life changes (transitions) can place stress on your marriage or relationship;
  • The toxic impact of secrets, how secrets differ from holding onto what feels personal, and the different reasons we may keep secrets from our spouse/partner;
  • And also, we’ll briefly look at the types of betrayals that negatively impact couples.

As you listen to the five problem areas that bring couples into counseling, try to assess how your relationship is doing in each of these areas:

  • Does your relationship have particular strengths that buffer against some or all of these potential problem areas?
  • Is greater attention needed by you and your partner to address a potential relationship issue? (Like developing a collaborative plan to turn a marital or relationship rut around, for instance.)
  • Can you and your partner come together and discuss these five areas of your relationship to see if you are both on the same track regarding how the relationship is doing?
  • If it feels like your relationship is in considerable trouble because of one or more of the above relationship issues, would you consider finding a professional couples counselor in your area to help get things back on track?

Remember, giving your relationship the attention it deserves can go a long way toward co-creating a healthy relationship or marriage. Rather than leave the success of your relationship to chance, having a vision about the areas of your relationship that may need attention can help shape the relationship you desire.

Featured image “Help hands means assistance counseling and question” by Stuart Miles. www.Freedigitalphotos.net.

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